Curbing Alcoholism

Alcoholism means that drinking alcohol becomes an important, or sometimes the most important, factor in one’s life and they feel they’re unable to function without it.It might be surprising to hear that you don’t always have to be drinking to extreme levels to become dependent

Couples helping each other Cope with Drinking

Happy couples do things together. If not, they support their partners in their choices and are there with them through thick and thin. Drinking can get addictive and out of hands at times. This is a time when people becomes detached and sometimes even go into depression. However, things can be easier when you have a loving partner by your side. It is not easy for the other partner as well because living with an alcoholic can be a rather stressful process. At one level, relating to your partner might become a problem in itself as you would be reminded of all things your partner could be doing instead of immersing himself/herself in alcohol. But with love come acceptance and a sense of empathy. And you need to hold on to these qualities tight during the tough time.

There is no one way to tackle such a difficult situation but one has to start somewhere. Here is what couples can do to help each other cope with drinking:

1. Acceptance: They say accepting a situation is the first step to put it right. You need to come to terms with the fact that your partner is an alcoholic or has taken to the problem. You need to analyse all the signs that give you this feeling. The moment your partner turns from a social drinker to a habitual drinker and finally to an addict. Keeping an eye out on the changes would help you cope with the problem.

2. Think about the underlying cause: There has to be a reason for the sudden alcoholism as it can’t simply emerge out of nowhere. It could be a tough work situation, dipping sales, loss in business, job issues or something really personal. Depression is said to be a major cause of people taking to alcohol. And there is sometimes no palpable reason for it. Your partner might seem to have a fulfilled life but deep within there might be a vacuum that could be causing stress and anxiety. Your role as a partner is to understand the cause and not be judgmental or rude about it. Sometimes, you have to devise non-conventional rules to handle the situation. Being too haughty about the situation might turn it for the worst. You wouldn’t want that.

3. Seek help: Sometimes you cannot handle everything by yourself. It is necessary to seek professional help for your partner. However, it must be done with the utmost sensitivity. In addition, options such as rehab centres are not a bad option. In fact, they are said to be beneficial. You need to let go off all the taboos and take on the situation in a forth-right manner.

4. Make them feel loved: The natural response to alcoholism is aggression. Sometimes, the other partner may take time to come to terms with it and respond with anger. Instead, talk to your spouse and make them feel loved and desired. This could help them deal with it better and come out of the addiction.

5. Always make room for other things: Life is too beautiful and to come out of one addiction, there has to be another. Sounds weird? But it works. Your aim should be to indulge your partner in other activities. Slowly you will see the results. When they see how loved they are, they are bound to change. Don’t give up on hope.

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How Drinking is a By-product of a Need for Escapism?

What is Alcoholism?

Alcoholism or Alcohol Dependence or Alcohol use disorder (AUD) is a chronic disease which involves uncontrolled drinking and preoccupation with alcohol. Many non-alcoholics wonder what causes drinkers to engage in consuming alcohol repetitively even after having a sound understanding of the innumerous physiological and psychological aspects of such a habit. How can you jump of a cliff even when you realise that it will result into certain death?


The Incessant Need for Escapism

Every alcoholic in the world would respond in unison with this, “The dire need of escapism is what triggers our desire for alcohol consumption.” Escapism is not a negative term. Infact an individual must experience escapism once in a while to ensure that life’s stress and worries do not get the better of you. Escapism is advisable as it aids in shifting your focus to an activity of your preference for a brief span of time before returning to the life’s hustle. When people resort to gaming, dancing or outdoor activities like trekking, working out, etc. – that is the kind of escapism which delivers positive impact. However, when escapism requires to reach out to a local bar or a wine shop, that’s when it becomes a problem.


The Triggers

Escapism is one of the main reasons behind everytime an alcoholic resorts to drinking. A person can have one of the million reasons to want to escape the reality which is in front of him ranging from workplace pressure, a trauma, hassles in personal life, emotional disturbances, loneliness and so on. It is also a fact that in order to escape from the psychological disorders one is going through, a person resorts to drinking. Such an approach is bound to develop an addiction towards alcohol.

Another immediate form of escapism is combining the effects of alcohol and drugs which intoxicates the user to such an extent that he can forget his endless list of worries for a temporary period whilst being under the influence. The matter of concern in this case is the next stage where the frequency of reaching out to alcohol and drugs rises beyond acceptable limits.


The Need of the Hour

The conclusion is that people addicted to alcohol are prone to indulge in escapism with the help of alcohol. These are the ones who cannot be easily convinced with the idea of escapism through reading, playing a sport, travelling, socialising. An alcoholic person would need his family and/or a specialist to bail him out of the vicious pit of addiction where momentary pleasure and relief takes over. It is noteworthy that a systematic approach is necessary to ensure a definite positive outcome to one’s addiction issues. Every alcoholic requires subjective medical treatment and care to be able to beat the demons of alcohol.


Life is known to throw curve balls every now and then. Believe it or not, nobody is an exception in that case. Everyone gets bogged down by life. Free meals exist only in fantasies, not reality. So face your share of life’s obstacles without the help of alcohol. There will not be any requirement of escaping reality when you encounter every problem with sheer grit and determination.

The ball is in your court; choose wisely!

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How To Cope With An Alcoholic Partner

The line between moderate drinking and excessive drinking is pretty thin and when someone close to you cross that line then it becomes difficult for us to deal with them. Some of us might feel that life is too short to deal with this kind of situation. This feeling would never emerge if you knew how to cope with your partner’s shortcoming.

There will be a time when you’ll feel hopeless because you won’t have the power to do something that can change the person or guarantee that they’ll stop using alcohol. But, the one power you have is to get a hold of yourself and prevent your family from being dysfunctional.

Studies have found that the primary reason for a family to be classified as “dysfunctional” is because the earning members of the family are alcoholic which leads them towards the path of self-destruction. An alcoholic’s mind stops working the way it is supposed to and sleep deprivation due to alcohol abuse might impact their professional life too.

Research have found that if an individual try not to stress too much on partner’s being an alcoholic then it could impact the well-being of the entire family and influence others, specially kids to follow their footstep too. It is important to put your family’s well-being on the top of your priority list because only when you’ll get a hold on your own life then only you’ll be able to persuade someone else to walk on the righteous path.

Humans are not meant to live alone and all by themselves, on the contrary we need someone to talk to and support us in the time of family crisis. So, you need people who understand your problems and care enough to be available for you at all times. A support group, family member, self-help group could be the shoulder you could lean on.

A positive attitude towards life could change your destiny. When your partner is an alcoholic and is hard to deal with then a positive attitude give you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.

Children have the power that mature people don’t have; such is the power of ‘resilience’. Living with an alcohol abuser could be difficult and the domestic conditions could impact a child’s mind. Being able to recover from an emotional trauma could be hard for an adult but it is child’s play for a kid which helps them getting over things quickly. Explaining your kids the dependence over alcohol could help them understand the situation and will help them cope with it.

An intervention is one regime that has been widely practiced by families and rehabilitation centres. Emotions can help a person getting rid of alcohol or at least cut down enough to be functional. Gather the family members who have good rapport and can easily connect with your partner. Sometimes words become the medicine that can cure the incurable.

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